
We are all survivors, of our personal histories, our family lines, and of the human race. Since the dawn of time, think of the families ended abruptly by a bullet, a spear, a club, a predator, illness, by accident and even by someone’s own hand.
Today is the anniversary of D-Day, the Normandy invasion in 1944. It was the day my Uncle Lewis was launched onto the Normandy beaches into a cruel war. I think it no coincidence that today is also the anniversary of my father’s death in 1965.
The day before he died, while his kids ran and laughed and played in the yard, my father planted a walnut tree—just a stick of a sapling–by the side of the house. Did he know what he was going to do? Did he plant that tree as his own memorial?
I hope not, because someone else is living in that little house in Detroit, and my Dad’s walnut tree is long gone, cut down in its prime. This I know, because I drive past each time I go back to visit my Aunt Loena. So these words must serve as a memorial to a World War II vet who came home without his little brother and best friend. That was the sin his mother never forgave him for, the sin he could he never quite forgive himself for either.
My army buddy, Jack Oliver, attended boot camp with Uncle Lewis. He helped me understand that my father was as much a victim of the war as my uncle. When the War Department tallies the casualties, it counts the dead, the wounded, the missing in action. But no one ever takes into account the broken hearts and broken families left by the wayside in the wake of war. If they did, perhaps they would stop sending our children off to fight and die.
But today is a day a of forgiveness, a day of understanding, a day to be thankful that life goes on. It is a day of sorrow, but most of all, today is a day to love.

Copyright 2012 Naomi Baltuck
Another day to live life to the fullest we can, in memory of those who no longer can. Thanks for sharing Naomi. I’m looking at a beautiful rainbow as I write this.
By: restlessjo on June 6, 2012
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It takes a lot of strength and courage to forgive and move on. I genuinely do not know how the victims of war do it; they must know that peace is worth it.
By: Worrywart on June 6, 2012
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Yes, you have to look forward, or better yet, look into your own life and be grateful for all you have. Thanks so much for visiting.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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Does anyone come back whole if they come back? I deplore war. I’m sorry to hear about your walnut tree.
By: Let's CUT the Crap! on June 6, 2012
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Hi Tess, I don’t mind. As they say in the African folk tale, so long as someone is there to remember and tell the story one is never truly dead.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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What a poignant story. Thanks for sharing it with us all. But how could your grandmother blame your father? How do you protect someone from a million different threats from a war? The day left many casualties, live and dead ones. I too wrote about this today.
By: Elyse on June 6, 2012
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Thank you, Elyse. I can only think that she was a mother who was crazed with grief, and try to forgive her too. I really appreciate your visit.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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Today has been a terrible and sad day for me, because this morning my grandmother died.
I was just turning off the lights and heading for bed when I heard the computer (pling) meaning I got mail.
I almost didn’t read this post, but for some reason I did…
“It is a day of sorrow, but most of all, today is a day to love.”
Thank you, Naomi and good night.
By: maggiemyklebust on June 6, 2012
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Oh, Maggie. I am so sorry for your loss.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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A good reminder that we leave behind a footprint . . . not always the memorial we intended, but often far beyond any expectation.
By: storytellermary on June 6, 2012
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Thank you for stopping by, Mary, and for sharing your thoughts.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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As it is every day, today is a heart wrenching day for millions of people throughout the world as we continue to lose our children to war. WWII was a particularly brutal experience for so many families and returning veterans. They all lived with deep wounds always just below the surface. Most of them have found that elusive peace only in death.
Your words are a fine memorial. The vet who came home without his brother is smiling today … I am certain of it.
By: George Weaver on June 6, 2012
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So well said, George. Thank you so much.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 6, 2012
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Oh! my heart.
Jamie
By: Explorations in Sacred Space on June 6, 2012
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Dear Jamie!
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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A really wonderful post, naomi. Yes, every family has in some way, suffered loss because of war. I mourn the family members that I never knew because of it.
By: adinparadise on June 7, 2012
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Thank you so much for sharing your story.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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Not all wars are the same. There have been some wars, that people thought were worth fighting… sometimes, even worth dying for. Did your father feel that WWII was a waste of time? Did he regret that he took part in it?
By: ShimonZ on June 7, 2012
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War is always horrible, but World War II had to be fought and the Nazis had to be defeated–there really was no question about that. I believe that many (most) wars are fought without sufficient justification, but genocide must never be tolerated.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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Beautiful post. Beautiful site. Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment because it led me to your blog. Blessings to you.
By: Cecelia Futch on June 7, 2012
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Hi Cecelia. Thank you for the follow. I really enjoyed your blog, and look forward to reading more posts. Naomi
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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Your words have the ring of coming straight from the heart – true and pure.
By: i mayfly on June 7, 2012
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Thank you!
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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War is violence, and violence is destruction which leaves behind it destruction and sadness. There is no way a human can be sent to fight a war, taught to kill or be killed, and not come out of it without being damaged. Yours is a beautifully poignant post.
By: Carol on June 7, 2012
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What Carol said. She said it way better than I could have.
It’s only these few years after the death of my father the fighter pilot that I realize even though he came home physically unscathed, the wounds he sustained never healed.
By: megan hicks on June 7, 2012
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I’m sure that’s true, and no one who hasn’t lived through it can understand, so they can’t talk about it, and it just lives there inside, festering. Oh, my heart goes out to them all.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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You are so right. Thank you, Carol. I appreciate your thoughts.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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Beautiful photos! Thanks so much for the great post!
By: Annika Ruohonen on June 7, 2012
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Thank you, Annika.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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A really touching post, written with real thought and meaning.
By: gingerbreadcafe on June 7, 2012
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I appreciate your stopping by and taking the time to comment.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 7, 2012
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This is beautiful, Naomi. Just beautiful.
By: Jessica F. Hinton (@mommyhoodnxtrt) on June 8, 2012
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Thank you, Jessica, and thanks for stopping by.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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How poignantly beautiful, Naomi! It is only through opening our hearts to the sorrows, the wounds and the vulnerability can we truly heal and forgive…and it’s by sharing the story of our wounds and the healing that we are able to help others begin to heal. Thank you.
xoTerri
By: t2van on June 8, 2012
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Dear Terri, how well you articulated that! Thank you so much for your insight, and for taking the time to share it. I always love to hear from you. xoxo nb
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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I love the photos and what you wrote, I’m sure wherever your father is, he is proud of you, you are right saying that it was a day for forgiveness; not everyone have such a clean heart to say so.
BTW, I love the first sentence: “We are all survivors, of our personal histories, our family lines, and of the human race. “
By: Pablo Buitrago on June 8, 2012
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Dear Pablo, thank you for your very sweet, very thoughtful comments.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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Absolutely beautiful, Naomi.
It’s heartbreaking that we (the U.S. in particular) seem to have entered an era of perpetual war, despite what political party is in power.
Heavy sigh.
By: Fish & Bicycles on June 8, 2012
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It is very disheartening, but I keep hoping…
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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The last last floods me with hope: “. . . today is a day to love.”
And so we shall. Thank you.
~ C
By: Cara Olsen on June 8, 2012
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Thank you, Cara.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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Oops . . . what I get for taking on a comment after less tan 15 minutes awake: “The last *line” floods me with hope.”
Have a beautiful, typo-free day.
~ Cara
By: Cara Olsen on June 8, 2012
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I hadn’t even noticed. Our brain fills in the gaps for us, which is a good thing, because I am having more and more of them! And thanks again for sharing your sweet thoughts.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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Oh, that’s wonderful! For a writer, there is little less rankling than typos. I stare at them all day, correcting the, so that when they infiltrate my comments, I just want to scream a little, eh? LOL.
That is true about filling in the gaps. I have seen those emails passed around, with numerals in the place of letters, and how the brain is able to discern what is there, even with missing or corrupted words. Incredible thing, a brain . . .
Cheers to brain gaps!
By: Cara Olsen on June 8, 2012
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Thanks for making me cry – what a beautiful piece of writing. We used to plant memorial trees in front of my childhod home – I drove by a couple of years ago to find that they had chopped down my brother. I know it meant nothing to the new owners, but it really disturbed me.
By: jammasterjamie on June 8, 2012
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Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I just tell myself that the tree is no more permanent than the life it commemorates. The story is the thing that will last, as long as you tell it. And I tell mine for every soldier cut down before his time, and for every spirit that comes home broken, so that maybe people will think twice about sending a soldier off to fight, or have more compassionate for the vets who come home damaged.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, and for your really sweet comments.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 8, 2012
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I almost couldn’t find the comment block there were so many comments! LOL. Great post, Naomi.
By: Susan Wingate on June 8, 2012
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Thank you for stopping by, Susan. I really appreciate the visit.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 9, 2012
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This is so heartfelt, Naomi…beautiful. My father-in-law also stormed Normandy Beach. He survived that battle, but the one in his mind did not end until his death in 1981. Not until then was he was finally at peace. My gratitude to your father for serving and enduring more than I can ever know. ♥
By: stuffitellmysister on June 8, 2012
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Oh, Paula, I thank you for sharing your story. I learned from attending my uncle’s reunion that the men might come home alive, but they never crawl out from under the burden of what they have seen, and what they have done–what we have asked them to do for us. I am grateful for your father-in-law’s service, and the sacrifice he made, not just for his country, but for the world.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 9, 2012
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♥ I am sad for my hubby too, who never really knew his “true” father ~ so many sacrifices…. thanks for your sweet words ♥
By: stuffitellmysister on June 10, 2012
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What a beautiful interpretation of today! A day to love and also to celebrate the legacy of those who sacrificed their tomorrows for us. Thank you so much for the reminder Naomi.
By: Madhu on June 8, 2012
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Thank you, Madhu. That is so true, and so well said!
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 9, 2012
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Photos are ideal reminders of the day and the paradox that comes from celebrating and mourning at the same time, which the day challenges us to do.
By: Sabrina Garie on June 9, 2012
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Dear Sabrina, the longer I know you, the more respect I have for your wordsmithing. You have hit the nail on the head once again. I appreciate your sharing your thoughtful and articulate comments.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 9, 2012
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Naomi,
A beautiful and touching piece…Thank you. I just read that in the first 6 months of this year, more U.S. military personnel committed suicide than died in combat. Talk about your casualties of war and the war machine. Blesings to you and your good family.
By: Tom Siewert on June 10, 2012
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Hi Tom, thanks so much for your thoughtful comments. I knew that the suicide rates for the military were bad, but I didn’t know they were that bad. So sad. Wishing you and your family al the best.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 11, 2012
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Sorry to hear about you Uncle Lewis. He is a hero and all the men and women who fought for their country and their people. I don’t believe in war and its effects but I believe in the people who risks their lives for it. War is never fair and it only cause pain and traumatic memories. I agree when you said, ” But no one ever takes into account the broken hearts and broken families left by the wayside in the wake of war. ” The last part was even more inspiring, “But today is a day a of forgiveness, a day of understanding, a day to be thankful that life goes on. It is a day of sorrow, but most of all, today is a day to love.” Thanks for sharing a generous post today.
By: island traveler on June 10, 2012
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Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate your taking the time to share your thoughts.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 11, 2012
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You express so beautifully that it’s important to find some hope amid all the tragedy. I’m so sorry that your father had to carry the burden of the war long after it was supposed to be over. I hope he is at peace now, and am so happy that you are finding your way through.
By: Naomi on June 11, 2012
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Hi Naomi. Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. My mom always used to tell us to look for the bright spots–maybe the brightest spot of all is that my father finally found the peace that eluded him. As for me, I am twice blessed. Once because I am, and twice because I know it. Thank you again for your kind words.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 11, 2012
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Naomi, I think one of you comments got caught in spam and I noticed it too late to save it. Looked like you sent me a link to something. I’m sorry …
By: Jamie Dedes on June 11, 2012
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Hi Jamie, I’m not sure what link I would have sent, except one of friendship and heartfelt appreciation for your very fine writing.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 11, 2012
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I just read this amazing novel – ‘The Collaborator’ by Margaret Leroy (I think it’s called the ‘Soldier’s Wife’ in a later edition). It’s all about the occupation of Guernsey and this woman’s romance with a German captain. At the same time, she’s secretly feeding a starving prisoner from one of the camps. It’s an amazing story about her struggle to survive the war, feed and cloth her children, and care for her ailing mother-in-law etc.
Thanks for sharing your moving family story
By: sarahpotterwrites on June 15, 2012
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Thank you, Sarah. Have you read The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society? It is about the Nazi occupation there, and is a really good book.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 15, 2012
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What a brilliant book title. I must look that one out. Thanks for the recommendation.
By: sarahpotterwrites on June 15, 2012
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Hi Sarah, you will love this book! It is sweet and funny, a little bit sad, but also very inspiring and it is a very fast read. There are a couple of titles that I watch out for in used book stores. This is one. Another one is The English Passengers by Matthew Kneale.
By: Naomi Baltuck on July 9, 2012
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Yet another for my reading list. This is very exciting.
My mother has just given me Ann Widdecombe’s World War II novel ‘An Act of Treachery’ to read. It seems pretty promising from the first couple of chapters. Ann is an amazing character – probably the only Conservative member of parliament I’ve ever liked. She is a truly ethical, intelligent, and fun-loving person, so I’m sure I’m going to love her writing.
By: sarahpotterwrites on July 10, 2012
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There’s nothing like the delicious anticipation when you crack open a book and know right away you are going to enjoy it. Have fun.
By: Naomi Baltuck on July 10, 2012
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beautiful shots… I love the post too.
By: eof737 on June 17, 2012
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Wonderful post. Too many wonderful people are lost in wars, those that die on the front, and others that die all but physically. So sad.
By: craftcrazygran on June 19, 2012
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So true. Thank you for stopping by, and taking the time to comment.
By: Naomi Baltuck on June 19, 2012
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Thought-provoking and emotion-evoking post. Makes me think of what mark we think we leave on the world and what mark actually remains long after us.
By: Kourtney Heintz on July 8, 2012
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Thank you, Kourtney. I do sometimes think of that, too.
By: Naomi Baltuck on July 8, 2012
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“The day before he died, while his kids ran and laughed and played in the yard, my father planted a walnut tree—just a stick of a sapling–by the side of the house. Did he know what he was going to do? Did he plant that tree as his own memorial?…”
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